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So, in my last post I talked about wanting people to reach their true potential, now I want to talk about the opposite. This one is for the people who know their worth but are made to feel unworthy by someone.

What if you know someone who refuses to make you feel special? What if you have a friend/family member/lover who makes you feel no more and no less ordinary? The obvious answer is “stay away from that person, they don’t deserve you”, but what if you cant, cant imagine your life without them. This is a rough topic, and there’s no easy way to speak of it, so please don’t take offense if any of this hits close to home.

Imagine you are with someone who doesn’t always make you feel special, you know that person means well but it doesn’t always show through their actions. You want to spend the rest of your life with this person, but you’re not sure they are going to stick around forever. They make you feel like you’re lucky they give you the time of day and like you shouldn’t ask for more because you don’t deserve it. You know they love you but you feel like they think they’re better than you.

Imagine you are in a friendship, you have outlined your wants and needs but your friend either doesn’t want to do the things that make you happy or they finds it too difficult. It might be difficult to stay away from this friend because they have been there for many years and they have been loyal but you cant go on feeling underappreciated. The things you want to do never seem to matter enough, your time is worth less than theirs. When you have an idea they make you feel childish and stupid.

Imagine every time you try to make your parents proud you fall short, always close but never quite making it. You get good grades but they say “that’s your only job” and its not impressive. You’re a good kid and you never get in trouble and they don’t seem to appreciate this. You try harder each day and never see your efforts rewarded.

If you are in a relationship, whether it be romantic, a friendship or you are a parent and you think maybe there’s a chance that you are making someone feel that way, the best advise I have is change it, right now. There’s no worse feeling than to question your worth. There’s nothing worse than feeling like you would do anything for someone who is unwilling to do enough.  Think back to a time when you felt mediocre or average, doesn’t feel very good right? So, don’t make anyone else go through that!

Don’t make your special person feel like they are just another person in your life.

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More often than not, I find myself wanting to say the things I know people don’t always want to hear. I don’t care if it sounds like a cliché, and I don’t care if you believe it or not. There are people I feel like physically shaking some sense into. I want to tell you, you’re better than you think, because you treat yourself like you’re not worth much. I want you to know you have potential and you’re drinking away your best years. I want to tell you to stop pretending you’re not creative and special. Stop dumbing yourself down just to feel accepted, because guess what? you’re better than the people whose acceptance you crave! So stop running away from reality, you don’t need drugs to get high, and you don’t need anyone else to be happy.